Days of Sick Are Over

We have had sickies in our house for two weeks. The lay in bed, tongue hanging out kind.  And I am in the final weeks of prep for my MFT exam.  I hope to be back more regularly.  I am doing great.  Getting sick got me back in my body, focused on me.  I said to a mother I had over the other night about my "worried about what people think about my mothering" crap and the "being left out" fantasies that the antidote was a daily practice of self love.  Not thinking about loving myself, not enjoying the idea of self love but actually sitting in meditation every day, actually considering myself with a great deal of affection, actually ruminating about all the proof points in my life that prove how I am included and how I am a good parent and not ruminating on the other stuff.  It felt good to stand tall, in my kitchen, with such conviction to this mother who has very similar sensitivities about being left out or being judged as myself.  I could tell she took in my message of love and it cemented my own committment.

So here is a quote on mothering from the priveledge of parenting blog that I love.  I will have some more blogs coming but this quote sums up what happens in parenting and it also sums up what happens when you whole heartedly step in to the role of therapist.

"If parenting is an attitude of relating in the service of being, then perhaps what is “created” in this archetypal relationship is reciprocal; the child forms a self in the context of being cared for (learning trust and finding her unique voice and identity) while the parent forms her soul (learning that “she” is not limited to the singular identity of who she thought she was, but rather finds her true Self in the group, in nature, in the mystery of what just is).  Much as baby and mother work together to effect the first great transition of birth, the psyche and mind of the parent works together with that of the child to “create” soul in the parent.  In this way parenting is an organic and readily present spiritual practice—one that, like yoga class, allows us to be on our own matt, and at the same time connected with each other."  http://wp.me/pwpN2-1wZ

Lovely!