Had a swirl of ideas today after my consult group on the unconscious.  I got curious about sibling relationships, friend relationships, parent child relationships and lover relationships.  Themes around needing to possess the other, be special to the other or control the other - essentially negotiating proximity (how close or far do I want to be with you in this moment) and how safe to I feel in my body as I do?   It is the mainstay of what I look at in my therapeutic work; the ways we are in and not in connection with ourselves and other people.  I got a whiff of some stuff today as I got titillated by my connections and stuff I am reading I also felt a kind of "look at me mom".  Started getting heady about it.  Realized, no need.  I can be with and hold her the same way I honor my sons when they are here rather than analyze her.  I am so grateful for my kids- they are the best teachers for hugging.  Off to hug myself. 

Oh and for whatever reason, in my intellectual masturbation today, a friend sent an article on the import of fairy tales in kids lives.  Of course I had to go google some excerpt from Joseph Cambell and came across this groovy hippy dude's website.  Fun. http://www.whidbey.com/parrott/moyers.htm

Joseph Campbell in the Power of Myth
"Shakespeare said that art is a mirror held up to nature. And that’s what it is. The nature is your nature, and all of these wonderful poetic images of mythology are referring to something in you. When your mind is simply trapped by the image out there so that you never make the reference to yourself, you have misread the image.

The inner world is the world of your requirements and your energies and your structure and your possibilities that meets the outer world. And the outer world is the field of your incarnation. That’s where you are. You’ve got to keep both going. As Novalis said, "The seat of the soul is there where the inner and outer worlds meet."