We Pick Up Info from our Kids' Unconcious

I have another post in the works but need to sleep.  Am in a process group with other therapists on the unconcious. How my unconcious is in commuincae with yours and the other way around.  What I didn't elaborate on in my last post that I am deeply getting from this group is that in moments when  I am off with my kids not all of my "offness" is some fucked up thing about me from my past.  My stuff is for sure getting triggered but perhaps the triggering of my stuff is a communcation from my kids about what they are experiencing inside, or need from me.  In my previous post I said I get overpowering and then feel ashamed.  If I spend too much time making it all about me, I miss out on what the communication is from my kid in what I am feeling.  Empathy is the only sure way to figure it out.

 I am getting a first hand experience of my own son's experience of disempowerment and shamebased on what I am experiencing and the errosive effect it has on our connection.  Tapping into these unconcious pieces gives me a direct pathway upon which to be in connection with my kid: help find playful ways for him to feel empowered in connection to me.  Even with some bumpy parts of the day, I am getting so much better at playing with my sons and having so much fun doing it I never want to leave the house anymore.  Today I went to the dentist and doctor (my son being the doctor and dentist) and totally got swept up in it.  He loved feeling powerful, helpful and in connection as I lay there on the kitchen floor as he stuck stuff in my mouth and stuck bandaids all over my body.  Seemed just the antidote to the power/shame soup we had been in.

Night.